Obligation/duty/ type

My type design is rusty. It is not what I do anymore. Photoshop skills are non-existent. I am better at Word or Pages, Indesign or Excel.
Most of my “designed” work ends up in the trash. Paper, web pages, ephemera that is digested and thrown out.
Today I had to design something that will stay forever. Type design for my parents’ headstone. A task too awful to think of. One too important to put aside.
My design skills are just not good enough. And the constraints too tight. Headstone- where type design meets in perpetuity but is often not considered.
Goudy? Garamond? What the funeral director suggested…NO. Traditional? More modern? Conservative?
They don’t teach this in design schools and I am unprepared. Unprepared for so many things.